Divorce is a stressful, emotional process. If you’re going through divorce, we understand how you feel. But even though divorce will never be a pleasant experience, there are steps that you can take to make it less stressful. Below are five of them:
1. Establish a new, positive direction. Maybe you’d benefit from an evening class, or even going back to school full time. Maybe you and your kids can learn a new skill or take up a new sport. Something new and fun can make a big difference for everyone.
2. If it’s possible, maintain a civil relationship with your spouse. (This isn’t advisable in abusive relationships. If you’ve been victimized by your spouse, speak to an expert about how to protect yourself.) This can be difficult, especially if your spouse did things that resulted in the divorce, but if you maintain a civil relationship you’ll be happy in the long run that you did; you’ll find it makes everything much easier if you have a non-combative relationship. And as much as you’ll benefit, your children will benefit even more. In particular, don’t force the kids to take sides or represent your spouse as a villain.
3. Take care of yourself. Get plenty of sleep and exercise. Eat healthy foods. If it’s all just getting to be too much to handle, talk to friends, family, or a counselor.
4. Be willing to mediate. If there are disagreements during the divorce that just aren’t getting resolved, sitting down with a third party can be very helpful.
5. Hire a divorce lawyer that will represent your interests fearlessly while keeping you informed. It’s vital that you have an experienced, tenacious lawyer on your side. It’s also important that your lawyer communicates proactively with you so that you’re always aware of the progress and aware of your options. If you don’t understand what’s happening, your stress levels are going to skyrocket.
If you’re going through divorce or considering the possibility, we can help. Call us now to discuss your options. We look forward to guiding you through this challenging process.