If you went through a divorce in 2017, or are currently in the middle of a divorce, it can be hard to have a positive outlook on the immediate future. The fact is, however, that millions of people have described the years following a divorce as some of the best in their life. Finding effective ways to thrive after a divorce is critical, and the following ideas can help get your 2018 off on the right track.
Take Advantage of the Opportunity to Be Yourself
Many people feel like they were ‘trapped’ in a situation where they really couldn’t be themselves in their marriage. After a divorce, you have the opportunity to really ‘reinvent’ yourself and become exactly who you want to be. Make sure you take advantage of your new situation where you are able to make decisions just for yourself. Get involved with activities you enjoy, make new friends (without abandoning the old) and really make yourself a priority in 2018!
Don’t Be Afraid to Ask for Help
There is an unfortunate stigma about seeking help from a therapist or counselor, and it leaves many people unable to properly address their emotions and move on from a traumatic event, such as a divorce. Start this new year off by scheduling an appointment with a good therapist who will not only help you deal with any lingering emotional issues from your divorce, but also help you to decide what you really want for the future!
The concept of forgiveness has been an essential part of just about every philosophy, religion, and even psychological text book throughout human history, and it is no secret why. Harboring resentment can really drag you down and keep you focused on the negative. There is even evidence that failing to forgive can lead to physical ailments. Make a strong effort in 2018 to forgive your ex, and anyone else who has hurt you in the past, and get ready for the best year of your life!
Figure Out What Makes You Happy
When asked about what makes them truly happy, many people are somewhat stumped. Sure, most people can name a couple things like ‘their children’ or a specific activity, but that is as far as it goes. People need a number of different things in their lives to keep them as happy as possible, so if you don’t have a list of items that really bring out a smile, take some time in 2018 to make one! Try new sports, join new clubs, find new hobbies, read new books. Even try things you never considered before (especially try these things) and you might be surprised to discover your new favorite activity for 2018!
Be A Little Selfish
Most married people feel like much of their marriage was living for their family, which is not necessarily a bad thing. After a divorce, however, you will almost certainly have more free time that won’t be taken up by family. Take this time and indulge in some things that are really all about you. Go get a massage, take a vacation on your own or with friends, put your feet up with a glass of wine and just do nothing for a few hours. While it may feel a little weird at first, taking some time all for yourself once in a while is actually very rewarding! And for any Florida family law matters you may encounter, please contact our firm at (305) 599-9951 today! We pride ourselves on our compassionate and empathetic legal team.