Dating Again After a Divorce

February 25, 2020

Making the choice to date again after divorce can feel like a huge step – and there’s no denying that it is. No matter if you’re freshly divorced or have been going solo for years, you still carry the heavy emotional weight of the experience on your shoulders. But jumping back into the dating pool doesn’t have to feel overwhelming. It should be fun!

As you regain your confidence in the dating arena and open yourself up to opportunities for new relationships to take shape in your life, you might just be surprised at what you find.

Smart tips for dating after divorce

• No need to rush – If your divorce hasn’t been finalized yet, it can be wise to precede dating with some careful considerations (take a look at this blog post for four important ones to keep in mind). While there are no laws against it, it’s smart to make sure you are choosing to date again for the right reasons rather than avoiding emotional feelings. Take your time and give yourself permission to move at your own pace.
• Adjust your expectations – You are a new person after divorce. Things that used to be important to you may not matter as much now. Reevaluate your expectations in a relationship and how your priorities will have room to grow with whomever you might meet.
• Be honest – It may feel tempting to try to hide parts of your life when dating someone new, but as you begin to form a new relationship, don’t shy away from your past or being honest about your interests. Be truthful with yourself too when assessing a potential new partner. You want someone who will like you for you who are, share your values, and support you in your goals.

Starting to date again after divorce has to feel right for you. Trust your gut and don’t beat yourself up if you don’t feel ready to start or if the person you date isn’t a good match. You are in the driver’s seat; it’s up to you to determine the best ways to navigate the road ahead.